I am a curatrix of erotic wellness.

Welcome to my personal library.

Actually, I prefer to think of it more like treasure map…. of books, workshops, courses, downloads…. all manner of weird and wonderful finds along my journey.

I hope you’ll find your own ‘x marks the spot.’

Books

I’ve been a lifelong sexual autodidact. Even as a child, when I wanted to know about something, I found a book!

There are more books on sex, tantra, love, relating, etc. than any of us will ever have time to read. Use my ‘cheat sheet’ to save you time - these books are absolutely critical to a well-rounded, deeply embodied sexual education:

• Books describing embodied tantric practices (amazing exercises you can actually use):

  • The Art of Sexual Ecstasy, Margot Anand

  • The Heart of Tantric Sex, Diana Richardson

  • Making Love, Barry Long

  • Tantric Orgasm for Women, Diana Richardson

  • The Multi-Orgasmic Man, Mantak Chia

  • Tantric Sex for Men, Diana Richardson

  • Slow Sex, Nicole Daedone

  • Science for Sexual Happiness, Caffyn Jesse

• Sexual/sensual anatomy:

  • Women’s Anatomy of Arousal, Sheri Winston

  • Come As You Are, Emily Nagoski

  • The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, Charlie Glickman

• Conscious relating, dynamics between partners, breaking unhealthy patterns:

  • Getting the Love You Want, Harville Hendricks

  • The Learning Love Handbooks (series of 3), Krishnananda & Amana Trobe

  • Dear Lover, David Deida

  • The Queen’s Code, Alison Armstrong

  • The Sexual Practices of Quodoushka, Amara Charles

• Owning your sexuality, navigating gender issues, polyamory and other “non-traditional” arrangements/sexual agreements:

  • The Ethical Slut, Hardy & Easton

  • The Gender Book, Mel Reiff Hays and Jay Mays

  • Sexual Agreements, Amara Charles

• Leaving well:

  • Conscious Uncoupling, Katherine Woodward Thomas
    

Workshops, retreats & teachers

These are all beautiful, immersive experiences to facilitate your introduction into tantra or to guide you in turning ‘vanilla’ sex into something more conscious or sacred:

• Tantra (3 levels), Homa & Mukto

• From Sex to Superconsciousness (series of 7 weekends), Ma Ananda Sarita

• Quodoushka (4 levels), (every facilitator I’ve experienced in this tradition has been quality)

• Alchemy of Relating & Intimacy Education, Talib & Shubhaa Fischer

• Learning Love workshops, Krishnananda & Amana Trobe

• Sexual Deconditioning Training, Svarup & Premartha
  

communities

These are all stunning residential communities who (once COVID-19 has been integrated) would be delighted to host you for a short stay (to dip your toes in their amazing pools) or a longer sojourn (live-in worker meditation programs) depending on your appetite and their availability. I have spent enough time in each to recommend them based on their heartfulness and maturity:

• Osheanic International Meditation Center - Fortaleza, Brazil

• Osho Afroz Meditation Center - Lesvos, Greece

• Osho International Meditation Resort - Pune, India
  

Deeper courses & educational pursuits for practitioners

Should you find yourself called to even deeper self-exploration, or possibly wanting to become a practitioner, these are courses I have either taken myself or advocate for because they are led by trusted friends:

• Tantra 3: The Art of Working with People, Homa & Mukto

• Tantra Essence Teacher Training, Ma Ananda Sarita

• The Verdant Collective: Apprentice Program for Erotic Intelligence Practitioners

• Somatic Sex Education Professional Training, Somatic Sex Educators Association

• Sex, Love & Relationship Professional Certification, The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality

• Learning Love Practitioner Certification, The Learning Love Institute

• Like a Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners, Betty Martin

• Working With People: Holistic Counselling Certified Training, Rafia Morgan & Turiya Hanover
  

online resources (great blogs, vlogs and more about sexuality and relating)

These are sites I love to peruse myself or refer clients to for particular goodies:

• Layla Martin - This “Headmistress of Pleasure” publishes amazing videos on everything you ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask….

• Mark Manson - Grounded life and relationship advice from a switched on guy with a wickedly dry sense of humor, who doesn’t give a f*ck