Photography by Kim Nanney

na·ked /ˈnākid/ adjective

1. without clothes
2. undisguised; blatant
3. unashamed

wis·dom /ˈwizdəm/ noun

1. the quality of having and applying experience, knowledge and good judgment
2. soundness

na·ked wis·dom /ˈnākid ˈwizdəm/ essential quality

The innate, core essence that naturally radiates and guides us when we strip away the layers of conditioning we inadvertently accumulate over time.

So what is naked wisdom?

It's you, being unabashedly you.

I'm passionate about helping you feel at home in your own skin.

Sometimes, I mean your literal skin.

As a Somatic Sex Educator, I’ll help you come back into the magnificence of your body, using meditation, sound, breath, movement, and conscious, loving touch to awaken and bring more awareness to your relationship to pleasure.

Sometimes, I mean your metaphorical skin.

As an Intimacy Field Guide, I’ll help you scout sometimes unfamiliar terrain to get in touch with who you really are, what you long for. Often, this involves looking at the parts of yourself you'd rather not see, or parts you didn’t even know existed. I provide a safe, non-judgmental container in which to do that.

The thread that weaves together everything I offer is the quest for embodied authenticity.

Whether you are wanting to be more authentic in the bedroom or the boardroom, our work together will inform the way you perceive yourself, your erotic energy, your personal power, the way you meet the world.

Authentic Intimacy

My passion and calling is the human need for authentic intimacy.

But what does that mean? Shouldn't intimacy, by definition, be authentic?

Real intimacy is a shared closeness, a deep understanding of ourselves and others, a connectedness. Which does imply being authentic.

But in our modern, hectic lives, "intimacy" is a word that gets tossed around very lightly, most often when we mean sexual proximity to another human being. Sometimes without any depth or connection involved at all.

How does that happen?

How do we find ourselves in relationships where we feel more alone than when we're single?

Or in bed with someone we wouldn't even be friends with if sexual chemistry hadn't gotten the better of us?

The internet has made the world much smaller – we are constantly “in touch” with people halfway around the globe. Yet, many of us are starved of real connection.

Our interactions have been reduced to sound bites and gestures. Some people may go days, weeks, even months without physical touch.

And so we begin bargaining…

I'll pretend to be what you want in order to be close to you.

You'll pretend to be what I want in order to be close to me.

Before we know it, there's so much pretense we have no idea what’s real anymore.

Thus, the vicious cycle begins:

We chase physical proximity to feel a sense of connection, but we connect from a space of inauthenticity and then feel even hollower after the experience than before. So we look for another encounter to alleviate that feeling, but it follows the same pattern…

It's no wonder that for many people, sex has become the least intimate thing they do.

Well, I'm a gal on a mission to bring intimacy back into fashion. Real intimacy. The kind that involves showing up in life, revealing who you are with the full understanding that being so vulnerable can be really fucking painful.

And really fucking amazing.

I believe the lip-smacking juiciness in life comes from being willing to be close to, and vulnerable with, people – whether they're family, friends, or lovers. To be fully present with someone is one of the greatest gifts we can give. And the feeling of being received with total presence is nothing short of intoxicating.

But how do we do it?

Conscious Relating

I help people relate consciously.

I help them relate "on purpose."

I help them relate from the space of their own highest integrity.

And I'm good at what I do.

Is it because I've cracked the code? Have the blueprint for your happiness? Never fuck up myself?

Absolutely not.

(P.S. if you think anyone ticks those boxes, we should probably begin with a strong myth-busting conversation!)

I'm good at what I do because it's my own personal journey every single day. What gets me out of bed in the morning is my desire to feel more comfortable in my own skin, to be more unabashedly me. I am my own laboratory, and my findings constantly influence my work.

And interestingly, I've discovered that the secret is not in losing that extra ten pounds, buying a new car, visiting the next exotic location, or finding the 'right' partner.

I've tried all that.

Surprise, surprise (trust me, I didn't invent this!) your relationships with others reflect back aspects of your relationship to yourself.

In plain English: to have healthy, fulfilling relationships with other people, you need to develop a healthy, fulfilling relationship with yourself.

You need to be madly, passionately, CANDIDLY in love with yourself first.

But before you worry that I've gone all hippy-dippy, New Age-y on you, I'm not talking about dropping discernment, or positively thinking your way to a narcissistic new you. I’m talking about an eyes-wide-open combination of scrutiny and self acceptance that will allow you to navigate the world with more ease and flow, with your head held high in quiet assuredness.

It's not about adding things, which implies that something is missing, that you're fundamentally flawed. It's about consciously working to remove the things that get in the way of appreciating your inherent worthiness.

It's about polishing off the layers and layers of grime – the religious or cultural or familial conditioning you absorbed, the behaviors you adopted to fit in and be accepted, the constant barrage of opinions that have accumulated over time – that cover your essential gifts.

Your absolute radiance.

Together, we’ll wipe away the steam from the bathroom mirror so you can see yourself more clearly.

But what does this have to do with sex?

Everything and nothing.

body sovereignty, sexual sovereignty

The core of my work is authenticity: I want you to develop the courage to be unabashedly, unapologetically who you're meant to be.

If there is a goal to our sessions, it's you living a life in tune with your being. One that nurtures who you are, one you don't have to apologize for or sugar coat. To anyone. Ever.

I’ll help you move into your own version of authenticity, unlearn the old grooves and develop new ones that suit the real you.

This can be an elusive, indirect journey at the best of times, and for many of us, the primary stumbling block is deeply rooted in our relationship to Eros.

Why?

Because erotic energy is life force. Pure and simple.

It's the primal force that guides everything: creativity, passion, drive, endurance, sexuality, pleasure, playfulness, acceptance, integration, wholeness. If you're repressing your erotic energy in any way (denying your needs, disallowing your pleasure, not communicating your hurts) then you're also suppressing your ability to live fully.

And who didn't grow up with some part of their sexuality being shamed or repressed?

It's a beautiful paradox: erotic energy is the biggest human motivator and the most taboo topic.

But you can breathe a sigh of relief: you've come to the right place to open the conversation.

It’s time to reclaim what’s rightfully yours. Your body, your Eros, your sensual and sexual expression, your Self.

Are you ready to get started?