somatic sex education Sessions

Wouldn’t it be amazing if…

Your body came with an instruction manual?

Or rites of passage and initiations were a valued part of our culture?

Or age- and situation-appropriate sex education classes were deemed as important as history or mathematics?

I think the world would be a much better place!

But these things aren’t part of the average person’s journey, and the lack of information - or MISinformation - people receive around their bodies and their sexuality can manifest everything from lack of awareness, misunderstandings, and miscommunications to shame, shock, and trauma.

My own personal ethos is that ‘curiosity SKILLED the cat’…so let’s get curious!

In these sessions, we explore your relationship to your body and your sexuality. The ‘somatic’ piece means we do this through the body - not by talking around it. We use sound, breath, movement, words, role play, meditation, client-directed touch and other tools to help you connect with the sensual vitality that is your birthright as a human being.

Some of the goals and benefits of these sessions may be reacquainting yourself with your body, reconnecting with your orgasmic nature, processing through trauma in a safe environment, appreciating the uniqueness of your own experience of sexuality, finding the courage to accept and communicate your desires and needs…basically, feeling more at home in your own skin!

Learning Love Sessions

We're born knowing how to love, right?  I believe we are.

But then life happens, and this perfect knowingness becomes tarnished by disappointments, misunderstandings, and other wounds.  And so we begin crafting defenses to protect against the overwhelming pain.  Our ability to love freely becomes smaller and smaller, until one day we wonder why we can't seem to create or sustain real intimacy.

In these sessions, we explore the issues that are creating disturbances in your relationships – your relationships with others, and most important: your relationship with yourself. 

We’ll look at how early wounds may be driving your current relationship style. We’ll practice discerning when your wounded child is running the show versus your mature adult consciousness.   We’ll also practice staying in the 'learning zone' of emotional discomfort so that your inner space and maturity grows.

Based on the work of Dr. Krish & Amana Trobe, the goals of these sessions are learning self-containment, how to create more consciousness in your relating patterns, how to relax your expectations around sexual encounters, and how to communicate with relationship partners in a way that supports individual freedom while fostering deeper intimacy.

Attendance Sessions

Why put off tantric exploration for when you have a partner?  I’d love to support you when you need a practice partner or coaching during public classes, events, workshops and retreats. 

It can be daunting to explore tantric practices for the first time.  Often you're being asked to go into a very vulnerable space, possibly within a large group of people.   Sometimes having support and encouragement during the process makes all the difference between a positive, expansive experience versus one that makes you want to run for the hills.  

Maybe you simply need moral support and a friendly face to feel more comfortable in a group setting.  Or maybe you want to do partner work but you don't have a partner.  You might even just need a 'wing woman' to help you connect with others at your event, or a few practice dates to give you the confidence you need to show up as your authentic self.

Allow me to hold your hand during the times when two are definitely better than one!

body sovereignty Sessions

How often have you endured touch you didn't want?  Or maybe you're not sure what you like or don't like because no one has ever asked you.  Maybe you've never even considered that you're worthy of being able to specify which types of contact you will and won't receive from others, intimate or otherwise.

Having body sovereignty means that you feel authority over your own body, which spans issues from how you take care of yourself, to your relationship to pleasure, to not allowing unwanted touch from others.  It rests on an underlying principle of overall sovereignty:  self love.  That you as an embodied being are worth protecting.   

Body sovereignty sessions help clients take back ownership and pleasure in their own skin.  Clients direct every single touch – no touch happens without a request being made.  From when and where, to what kind of pressure or what kind of stroke, clients learn how to discern between touch that is pleasing and touch that is not. 

Based on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent teachings and tools, we work with touch in these sessions as well as deconstructing patterns of self loathing.  The overall goals are clarity of boundaries and feeling at home in your own skin.    

Experience Design & Guidance

I design custom experiences and retreats for individuals, couples, and groups wanting to work on specific issues in a beautiful location away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, work stress, kids, responsibilities, etc.  

It's amazing how deep we can go in a short space of time when daily distractions are removed and we're supported by a calming environment with a focused intention. 

Some examples: 

• Tantric rituals

• Honoring ceremonies

• Transition rituals

• Couples weekends

• Group retreats

• Women's circles