the art of touch sessions

My passion for helping individuals feel more at home in their own skin applies doubly to couples - I love nothing more than teaching couples how to touch each other with more loving presence and confidence.

Are you sometimes enduring touch from your partner that doesn’t feel good? Are you having trouble explaining what you’d really like to receive? Not sure what your partner really likes versus what they’re tolerating? Let’s play!

Learning Love Sessions

When the honeymoon phase has run its course, real relating can begin. Which can be wonderful…

Or it can be a fucking nightmare if you’re not prepared for your projections to crash.

Suddenly everything is ‘he said, she said..’ (or he said, he said…or she said, she said….or they said, they said….you get the point!)

Except there aren’t just two people in the conversation. Each of you has a mature adult consciousness as well as an inner child….as well as the conditioning passed down to you from your parents…possibly the opinions of your friends…

Sometimes it can be difficult to assess exactly how many people are in the room!

In these sessions, we explore the issues that are creating disturbances in the relationship. We look at how early wounds may be driving your current relationship style and practice discerning when your wounded child is running the show versus your mature adult consciousness.   We'll practice staying in the 'learning zone' of emotional discomfort so that your inner space and maturity grows, giving you an increased possibility to take responsibility for your life experience.

Based on the work of Dr. Krish & Amana Trobe, the goals of these sessions are that each partner learns self-containment, active listening, how to create more consciousness in your relating patterns, how to relax your expectations around sexual encounters, and how to communicate with each other in a way that supports individual freedom while fostering deeper intimacy.

Experience Design & Guidance

I design custom experiences, weekends, and longer retreats for couples wanting to work on specific issues in a beautiful location away from the hustle and bustle of everyday life, work stress, kids, responsibilities, etc.  

It's amazing how deep we can go in a short space of time when daily distractions are removed and we're supported by a calming environment with a focused intention. 

Some examples: 

• Tantric rituals

• Honoring ceremonies

• Couples weekends

• The Art of Touch

• Conscious Unweaving

Conscious unweaving sessions

The bulk of my work is helping couples to improve their relating skills, rekindle the fire, and generally strengthen the container of their relationship.

And sometimes, the highest growth is to realize that this phase of the experiment has been fully lived.

When this is the case, I help couples leave well. We look with great care and attention at the projections, the expectations, the unvoiced desires and unmet needs of each partner. If relationships can be considered a rich tapestry of individual threads, consciously unweaving what was once a beautiful creation can be an important healing process for all involved. 

Sometimes, going through the process of really seeing the other and being seen (perhaps for the first time) can create such an opening that a new, healthier version of the relationship is possible. And sometimes, individuals simply leave the process experiencing themselves and their partner with an increased level of compassion that allows the dance of grief and celebration to begin the healing journey. It is often possible for each to leave the process with a better understanding of what they’re carrying forward into the next relationship. The ‘stuff’ that’s theirs, regardless of which partner is reflecting it back to them.

Based loosely on Katherine Woodward Thomas’s Conscious Uncoupling and my own passionate desire to embody my teachers’ reminders that “the other does not exist…”