I am a curatrix of erotic wellness.
Welcome to my personal library.
Actually, I prefer to think of it more like treasure map…. of books, workshops, courses, downloads…. all manner of weird and wonderful finds along my journey.
I hope you’ll find your own ‘x marks the spot.’
Books
I’ve been a lifelong sexual autodidact. Even as a child, when I wanted to know about something, I found a book!
There are more books on sex, tantra, love, relating, etc. than any of us will ever have time to read. Use my ‘cheat sheet’ to save you time - these books are absolutely critical to a well-rounded, deeply embodied sexual education:
Books describing embodied tantric practices (amazing exercises you can actually use):
Sexual/sensual anatomy:
Conscious relating, dynamics between partners, breaking unhealthy patterns:
Owning your sexuality, navigating gender issues, polyamory and other “non-traditional” arrangements/sexual agreements:
Leaving well:
Workshops, retreats & teachers
These are all beautiful, immersive experiences to facilitate your introduction into tantra or to guide you in turning ‘vanilla’ sex into something more conscious or sacred:
From Sex to Superconsciousness (series of 7 weekends), Ma Ananda Sarita
Quodoushka (4 levels), (every facilitator I’ve experienced in this tradition has been quality)
Alchemy of Relating & Intimacy Education, Talib & Shubhaa Fischer
communities
These are all stunning residential communities who (once COVID-19 has been integrated) would be delighted to host you for a short stay (to dip your toes in their amazing pools) or a longer sojourn (live-in worker meditation programs) depending on your appetite and their availability. I have spent enough time in each to recommend them based on their heartfulness and maturity:
Deeper courses & educational pursuits for practitioners
Should you find yourself called to even deeper self-exploration, or possibly wanting to become a practitioner, these are courses I have either taken myself or advocate for because they are led by trusted friends:
The Verdant Collective: Apprentice Program for Erotic Intelligence Practitioners
Somatic Sex Education Professional Training, Somatic Sex Educators Association
Sex, Love & Relationship Professional Certification, The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
Learning Love Practitioner Certification, The Learning Love Institute
Like a Pro: The Wheel of Consent for Practitioners, Betty Martin
Working With People: Holistic Counselling Certified Training, Rafia Morgan & Turiya Hanover
online resources (great blogs, vlogs and more about sexuality and relating)
These are sites I love to peruse myself or refer clients to for particular goodies:
Layla Martin - This “Headmistress of Pleasure” publishes amazing videos on everything you ever wanted to know about sex but were afraid to ask….
Mark Manson - Grounded life and relationship advice from a switched on guy with a wickedly dry sense of humor, who doesn’t give a f*ck